Amanaa Kaur
Inner Child Healing
This process is the foundation of any inner work. And most of the times we have to come back to this process to find answers.
And every time we do it again it opens up a new layer .
inner child healing, is a way to address our needs that haven't been met as children and heal the attachment wound we’ve developed.
We all have a younger part of ourselves that was "never quite loved the right way or the way they needed as a child,"
This creates a lack in us, we keep filling the part of us that feels something is not quite right. It often feels like filling a bucket that has a hole in it. The process of Inner child healing enables us to close this hole.
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When we have a wounded inner child, we keep functioning from it. It shows up in our work, relationships, career , with clients , etc.Imagine a hurt child driving the car. He might be rash, or slow or careless .
Healing the inner child means , taking the steering wheel in your hands and asking the child to sit on the passenger seat.
This enables us tomorrow make conscious and mature choices.
There would be various modalities that we will use for inner child healing . Including hypno therapy , shamanic guided meditation, and therapy based on The Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) .
The mother wound, and father wound are both caused by having a physically, emotionally, or psychologically unavailable parent, but the two types of trauma have different effects. The mother wound tends to be about a lack of emotional safety, which prevents us from learning how to self-soothe and regulate our emotions, the father wound impacts self-image, worthiness, self-confidence and a sense of independence.
Day 1 Mother wound . We will repair the relationship with our mothers or mother like figure in our life. The places where we have been hurt by our mothers or dint receive the love we wanted for our growth.
The Mother Wound Includes the Pain Of:
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Comparison: not feeling good enough.
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Shame: consistent background sense that there is something wrong with you.
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Attenuation: Feeling you must remain small in order to be loved.
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A persistent sense of guilt for wanting more than you currently have.
How the Mother Wound Manifests
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Not being your full self because you don’t want to threaten others.
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Having a high tolerance for poor treatment from others.
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Emotional care-taking.
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Feeling competitive with other women.
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Self-sabotage.
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Being overly rigid and dominating.
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Conditions such as eating disorders, depression and addictions.
The benefits of healing the mother wound
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Having healthy boundaries that support the actualization of your highest and best self.
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Being more fluent and skilled in handling your emotions. Seeing them as a source of wisdom and information.
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Developing a solid “inner mother” that provides unconditional love, support, and comfort to your younger parts.
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Knowing yourself as competent. Feeling that anything is possible, open to miracles and all good things.
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Being in constant contact with your inner goodness and your ability to bring it into everything you do.
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Deep compassion for yourself and other people.
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Not taking yourself too seriously. No longer needing external validation to feel OK. Not needing to prove yourself to others.
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Trusting life to bring you what you need.
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Feeling safe in your own skin and the freedom to be yourself.
Day 2: Father Wound
If you feel unloved, unknown, or unwanted by your father from an early age, this can influence how you see yourself and what you expect other people to see in you. These lessons can stick with you into adulthood and change how you live your life
Father wound in adulthood
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Low self-esteem, confidence, and self-worth
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Difficulty building and maintaining healthy relationships
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Difficulty regulating emotions
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Self-sabotaging behaviors
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Fear of rejection, betrayal, or abandonment
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Difficulty parenting one’s own children
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Being overly loose or rigid with boundaries
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Mental health conditions such as anxiety, depression, or addiction issues
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Feeling lack in money .
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Attracting partners who are not emotionally unavailable
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Hyper independence
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Inability to receive love
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Having strong walls to keep the connections away
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Inability to hold/save money
Benefits of healing father wounds
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Ability to receive love opens
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Finances becomes better
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Inner confidence
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Natural strength build up
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Ability to self sooth and handle the emotions better
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Creates a sense of more time in life
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Opening self to living partners or willing to reactive the love of the partner
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Healing the insecurities and fear around partner.
Day 3
Healing based on "The Ideal Parent Figure visualization protocol"
This aims to reverse the deliberate failure of imagination that can result from a difficult childhood. It helps individuals discover the kind of support that fosters further exploratory behavior and provides a solution to the frustration of “not knowing how” to be self-compassionate.
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This is a great tool to achieve secure style of attachment and creates safety in financial realms
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